Help, I’m excited but confused

Clock by Aphiwat Chuangchoem via PexelsHere’s the first in my new series of Asking For Help blogs, where I answer a question (from myself or others) with a slogan chosen at random from my book, ‘What Helps: Sixty Slogans to Live By‘.

Question: I’m thinking about making some big changes in my work, and I’m excited but also confused about how much of these plans might be driven by a fearful ‘grabbing at security’. What should I do next?

Slogan: If in doubt, wait.

Interpretation: I often get fired up about new projects, and I think that some of this energy is helpful. It launches me into my new projects, and it provides me with plenty of fuel to keep going. I get stuff done!

I am also aware of a tendency in me to be impulsive, and this impulsivity is often mixed up with a fierce fear-driven hope that the new project will provide me once and for all with the ANSWER. This might be more money, or more security, or more affirmation, or any number of things that I known through experience are not the things that make me happy.

How would it be to playfully approach my new project from a place of abundance and ease, feeling less worried about whether it will be ‘successful’ or not? How would it be to take the time to listen to all the different parts of me that are involved in these decisions?

While there is still confusion, I’m not going to rush to make any big changes. Instead I’ll take some time, listen to myself, and see what becomes clear. When I check in with myself now, I feel like I’ve let out a long breath. The excitement is still there, but I don’t feel any of the panic. If in doubt, wait.

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You can read the introduction to ‘What Helps: Sixty Slogans to Live Byhere, and the first slogan here. If you’ve got a question you’d like me to answer, email it to me and it may feature in a future blog.